I'll just briefly say that I learned long ago that what we perceive as inequalities are mostly on the surface. We are very, very equal in the eyes of God. We spend far too much time focusing on inadequacies when we should be focusing on truth, beauty and goodness. You have to look for it to find it. If people are busy looking for error, then that's what they'll find. People just do not know how to get past the outward visuals in order to perceive the inner person who is wealthy beyond measure. Most people are trapped by their own attitudes learned from those around them in high and low places. It's an attitude shift that is necessary to make this world turn the corner into the next age. We need enthusiastic optimism concerning one another. It's not pollyanna; it's real.
God often puts us in positions of darkness so our light will shine all the brighter, hoping others will be attracted to it. Those who know they are inner lit need to let it shine courageously in this dark world. That is really what service is all about. If they come, thank God. If they run further into the darkness, pray to God. It's really his work in the end.
130.2.4 One of the young men who worked with Jesus one day on the steering paddle became much interested in the words which he dropped from hour to hour as they toiled in the shipyard. When Jesus intimated that the Father in heaven was interested in the welfare of his children on earth, this young Greek, Anaxand, said: “If the Gods are interested in me, then why do they not remove the cruel and unjust foreman of this workshop?” He was startled when Jesus replied, “Since you know the ways of kindness and value justice, perhaps the Gods have brought this erring man near that you may lead him into this better way. Maybe you are the salt which is to make this brother more agreeable to all other men; that is, if you have not lost your savor. As it is, this man is your master in that his evil ways unfavorably influence you. Why not assert your mastery of evil by virtue of the power of goodness and thus become the master of all relations between the two of you? I predict that the good in you could overcome the evil in him if you gave it a fair and living chance. There is no adventure in the course of mortal existence more enthralling than to enjoy the exhilaration of becoming the material life partner with spiritual energy and divine truth in one of their triumphant struggles with error and evil. It is a marvelous and transforming experience to become the living channel of spiritual light to the mortal who sits in spiritual darkness. If you are more blessed with truth than is this man, his need should challenge you. Surely you are not the coward who could stand by on the seashore and watch a fellow man who could not swim perish! How much more of value is this man’s soul floundering in darkness compared to his body drowning in water!”
If we fail to attract others, I think God's answer would be, "Bear more fruit!" I don't think we should worry so much about other people's lack of "heart", but instead work harder on developing our own. You can't turn another's heart in any other way. They have to be attracted to the goodness in yours sometimes in order to discover the goodness in their own.
I'd say each person is responsible for changing their own attitude towards those who are selfish or lack heart. We should stop focusing on other's hearts and worry about our own. Otherwise we might fall into brooding, indecision, procrastination, equivocation, doubt, insincerity, problem avoidance, vengeful thinking or retreat and ease seeking. And you know how I feel about those things . . . just sayin'. I'm convinced that when it comes to others we are insufficient judges in determining what is selfish and what is not. We may see an activity as selfish when it may not be. When we are able to know another's motives fully, then we can say, but never for sure. Until then, we can only observe and question, but never judge.